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Ask Laura! Wife's desire for sex is low

Posted: Apr 25th 2008 1:00PM by Laura Lewis
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Dear Laura!

I am a 60 year old man that has a high sex drive. But my wife has very little desire for sex. If she has it her way we might make love 3 or 4 times a year . What can I do to help with her problem Any advice will be helpful!

Thank you and have a nice day.
Signed,
w.b.r.
Dear w.b.r,
Having a spouse or partner who does not want to have sex as often as one would like for them to is an age old problem. And it can be confusing, irritating and cause the person who desires more to become angry, resentful and depressed. Feeling rejected also plays into this situation. You did not mention if your wife is pre or post menopausal, however the few items I discuss below will be relevant, regardless of the stage in her life.
Whenever low libido in women comes up in conversation with me, I always like to look at the bigger picture. The following are a few thoughts for contemplation:
  • Women's hormones shift and change throughout their lives. These shifts can physically cause a decreased desire for sex. Lowered progesterone levels is often found in those women who seem to have zero desire for being intimate with their partner. Low testosterone may also be a factor in both men and women whose interest in sex has waned. Instead of taking the rejection personally, where many men often do, seeking a solution is so extraordinarly wise of you to do. Biochemistry makes or breaks libido in men and women. I would recommend that your wife seek advice from a health care professional whose expertise is in this area. I found this link as a nice resource for more information.
  • Poor nutrition and fitness can lower one's desire for "romance". A diet high in refined carbohydrates such as foods made with white flour and sugar and are low in fiber, vitamins and minerals essential for optimal health may upset the human "biochemical apple cart"! In order for humans to feel vivacious and alive, we need to consume a diet rich in fresh fruits and veggies, lean protein (vegetarian or animal sources) and most importantly, "good fat", essential for optimal hormonal production and balance. Omega 3 fatty acid sources such as fatty fish, walnuts and flax seeds or oil, consumed daily, can positively effect hormonal balance...plus, side benefits of ingesting Omega 3's are improved heart health, decreased inflammation and elevated moods. Working out, especially resistance exercise, can elevate "youth hormones" naturally. Increasing muscle mass is directly correlated to elevation of testosterone to healthy levels which may help in the "love" department for both men and women.
  • Emotional intimacy. As a woman, I can tell you that if I don't have an emotional connection with my partner, my desire for him is just not there. Simply having a "real" conversation with your wife may help. And listen to her....really listen. If you show your wife that you are truly interested in how she thinks and feels, it can be a positive turning point in your relationship. Give it a try. It works...trust me. When my boyfriend asks me how I am, looks me in the eyes and actually responds with words that tells me he cares, my attraction to him increases.

Hopefully w.b.r, my words of "woman's wisdom" will help point you in the right direction. There is no one "magic bullet", regardless of all the spam you might receive expounding upon the benefits of sexual enhancement products! We women are complicated to say the least. But having a partner that will hang in there during the challenging times in a relationship, which for you is now, has potential to present great rewards in the long run!

Best of Luck in Love!

Healthfully Yours,

Laura Lewis, Life Fit Expert for That's Fit!

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