Apr 10th 2011 11:45AM And I thank Rebecca Carroll for this article and I thank the people who speak up about their experiences with racism in the here and now. They know. Loving parents..you may not feel the racism now,so when it shows up in your world it might be you,yourself who is surprised. Dont be afraid..just be aware that it does exist and teach your child to have a spirit bigger than it is. Bless us all.
Apr 10th 2011 11:30AM Dawn,I am a white mom with a black husband and a mixed child,age 7. It wasnt until my child became of school age and we were intermingling more socially that I began to pick up on the occasional,very subtle, pressures of racism. Little comments,the occasional insinuation or cold shoulder from someone, whether they realized it or not, began to reveal themselves to me. I realized that even though my husband and I provide an environment of unconditional love that we were going to have to prepare our child to deal with the eventuality of being accosted by racist individuals. I picked up a copy of the book, Does Anybody Else Look Like Me?..a Parents Guide to raising Multiracial Children by Donna Jackson Nakazawa. It has been a great help. People are naturally a bit wary of others who dont look like them..it's a defense instinct. Racism in all directions will always be something that might present itself to be dealt with. At least your child has a loving family to brace him/herself against. I wish you all the best!
Mar 7th 2011 9:54PM I read years ago how a teacher showed her elementary school class, as best she could, how prejudice feels. She divided the class up by eye color and gave or withheld normal everyday privileges alternately to each group...first to use the bathroom,drinking fountain,etc.One group got recess, the other had to sit inside, etc. for a week,alternating so each group felt the privilege and the pain of privilege unjustly withheld. It certainly was not as bad as the actual day to day pain of living with prejudice, but it sounded like a decent attempt at getting kids to feel why it is so wrong.
Feb 6th 2011 4:56AM A monogamy-minded woman should ask a potential mate how he feels/thinks about an open marriage. If he says he sseriously thinks he would like it, then she should decide then and there if she can deal with that - and find another man if she doesnt like the answer. A monagamous male should proceed the same way. Traditional marriage is NOT dead, no matter what social engineering propaganda tries to foist on us.
An open marriage presents a more complicated legal situation that would require a prenuptial agreement, and which might actually be illegal in some states ( polygamy ) PROCEED WITH GREAT CAUTION.
Feb 6th 2011 4:38AM All this has been tried already. Look back into the histories of some of the prominent communes of the 1960's and 70's. Stephen Gaskin, spiritual leader of The Farm, an experiment in communal living in the early 1970's, said he and his wofe and some commune couples tried every combination of partners in marriage situations: three people marriages, four people marriages. Group marriages. He stated that the more people involved in an open marriage or emotional/sexual committment relationship,the harder it is to maintain. Three partners = 3 x as hard; 4 partners = 4 times as hard, etc.
This couple is stating that marriage is dead. but they are trying to gain financially from that stance. Their opinion might change someday.
True, people are living longer now. "'Til death do us part" was a vow instituted when people werent expected to live past age 30! This does not mean that a traditional marriage cant work. I can personally provide several examples of people who have been caringly married for over 60 years to each other. If a couple wants to allow others in, it could work depending on their personalities. But traditional marriage is FAR from dead.
Jan 30th 2011 7:49PM This is a really friendly looking gent with a mega-watt smile and resume to match. Hope he gets a job where the hair and whiskers can stay - maybe Margaritaville! All the best to him!
Jan 26th 2011 8:31AM Money is at the root of this somewhere,no doubt.
Jan 19th 2011 9:59PM Any processed food is likely to contain ingredients that are not necessarily good for our bodies. Young mothers who dont know any better and who are looking for convenience are going to fall for gimmicky foods. Mothers, please keep your childrens' food as close to natural as possible. Shop for fresh produce and cook simply.Mash steamed vegetables up for your child. Scrape a half an apple with a spoon to get fresh-from-the fruit applesauce for baby right at the table. You can get $10 food grinders at the dollar stores and grind up your own fresh fruits,steamed veggies and meats for healthful baby foods without all the additives. Dont fall for the gimicky,junky food!
Jan 19th 2011 9:41PM Agreed Billy! Hot dogs are a very dangerous food to feed babies! Their shape is just right to fit into a baby's windpipe and choke the child to death! Gerber cannot possibly come up with any excuse to get around that. Parents,be aware!
Jan 15th 2011 2:55PM Oh dear me..A teacher who can't pronounce names? Learn, teacher, learn! These people have every right to name their children different and unique names that make them happy. CELEBRATE the child's gift of having parents who care to create a name that is special for them and STOP implying to children by your attitude and inability to deal with it that there is something wrong with THEM. Be happy that your stubborn mind is being challenged by something different. It is not about you remembering a child's name. It is about them feeling whole and wonderful and special. And isnt that part of a teacher's job?? So..how about helping out? I'm white, middle class,old school, and made the realization. So can you!