Feeling Like the Fattest Friend

Proud is not a strong enough word. I too am struggling with weight loss. I need double knee replacement and can't have it done until I lose
100 lbs. Havv lost 65 so far but it a struggle every day. Keep up the good work and we Will reach our goals.

Speak for yourself, Steve. Some men do indeed love a more shapely woman. Not a stick, or even a stick with balloons implanted. Real women have curves. You may not prefer it, so don't date those types. But, don't put pressure on them to lose weight to get a guy.
In this case, good for her. The message is...don't order a dress too small expecting to lose weight. I am sorry the bride must have decided to replace her, she says she couldn't be in the wedding party. That is a little harsh for not losing the weight! What if she had become pregnant in those passing months before the wedding? Would she still have been out?

What exactly do you call "Rubenesque"? I am 52 years old and curvy - 5'4" and 140 pounds give or take 5 either way. Yet I am looked upon as fat? I am a size 10 for gods sake. You want some bag of bones? Be our guest! My ex (who is also still one of my best friends) is dating some woman who is his ideal size, a zero, but she is as dumb as a wall and as ugly too. But hey, she's skinny! It won't last long, trust me. No matter how skinny the woman is if she's stupid then men won't be interested for long.

And Lisa under Steve: uh the woman here had to back out at the last minute, the day of the wedding! What choice did she have? The dress didn't fit. I think the real problem is that she ordered a dress too small in the first place. If she had gotten one that fit then still lost weight a loose fitting dress always looks better then a too tight one. Doesn't sound like there was anything that the bride could do at the last minute.

I beg to differ with you Steve. Have you ever watched the "Judge Greg Mathiss" show? He loves his women with lots of jiggle to their wiggle. Men like you are at the root of young girls eating disorders. Shame on you for speaking for your entire gender!!

@Sue: sadly, yes you would be considered fat, in Phoenix at least, where men OUR AGE openly state in their personals ads "SINGLE DIGIT SIZES ONLY" (that means size 8 or under). I was told I was a "fat pig" AFTER I lost 35 lbs and managed to get into a 12. Men your age - and MINE - I'm 55, 5'4", and 143, so we are almost exactly the same size. I'm now actually at the size I was before I was pregnant with my first child, 25 years ago, for the first time since then. But I've hit a plateau, I'm maintaining, but not losing more.
Perhaps Steve is from Phoenix, too, or SoCal.

I DO have to say to Ashley, the author - I would NEVER have ordered smaller! A dress can pretty easily be taken IN at the last minute if you lost weight; if nothing else, a pretty fabric belt or similar could be added. You could even have had someone pin it smaller from the inside, like at model shoots! NOT EASY to let OUT a dress, though.

Yeah, speak for yourself, Steve. I'm a size 20 and I get hit on all the time. Plenty of men prefer "thick" women.

Also, "you are losing!" is not a compliment if the person you're supposedly complimenting has lost that weight due to illness, depression, or any other reason besides dieting. It's better to ask if they have lost weight and see how they react to the question before complimenting them.

Steve...you are wrong. When I married my husband, I was 138 pounds at 5'10". I ate breakfast, skipped lunch and made a reasonable dinner. My now ex-husband became a feeder. Eat this, eat that until I gained in excess of 100 pounds. I was miserable. I dieted and loss weight but he was unhappy."I do not like you skinny" he would always say. So why did you marry me. "I love you but thought I could get you to the size of woman I like". I said goodbye to him!

@ Lisa " I am sorry the bride must have decided to replace her, she says she couldn't be in the wedding party. That is a little harsh for not losing the weight! What if she had become pregnant in those passing months before the wedding? Would she still have been out? "
Reading comprehension here Lisa, the dress wouldn't zip on the day of the wedding, THE DRESS WOULDN'T ZIP. It doesn't say the bride decided to replace her it says she couldn't be in the wedding because the dress wouldn't zip! Would you march down the aisle in your friends wedding in an unzipped gown that simply couldn't close? i.e. that simply could not be used. Don't call the bride harsh, read what was written: The dress wouldn't zip the day of the wedding.
Oh and Ashley, All the best I hope you have great success in your health related endeavor.

Oh, I don't know whether to vote you up for the wise advice, or down for saying men are more intelligent! I guess I won't vote, and say that in this case (altering) a man is more intelligent! But, not "vastly!"

Gee and I wonder who made us feel that way in the first place? All you have to do is look at Steve's comment.

I reported him for being a jerk....that is what I did

Hello there! I gather you are a man from your comments. I would like to let you know that a dress cannot be made bigger but smaller. You cannot ADDE to the dress but you can take AWAY from it. Same for the pants by the way (unless there is enough material to do so).

@ Nicole , you can so let out a dress depending on how it's made , never ever buy a dress that you can't swap like a bridesmaid and expect to fit in it. That was a mistake and she should have tried it on before the day of. Also I applauded people who want to lose weight but what is the reason behind it ! I hate those commercial " My husband never paid attention to me since I gained weight now he loves me again I'm his trophy wife ! " WHat the Hell kind of husband stops wanting u because you gained a few pounds !What is he gonna do when u get old or sick ? ! Never let anyone make u think your self worth is in your dress size is a TRUE statement ! LOve yourself , if a Man or woman can't accept you for your flaws they aint worth it !!!