Can Fat Come Between Friends?

Posted on Nov 24th 2009 3:00PM by Kimberly Papa

Weight can be a touchy subject among friends. Honestly telling a friend whether those jeans do make her look heavy is a hard thing to do. While the number on the scale shouldn't mean a thing when it comes to close pals, the reality is some of us do change our habits, bite our tongues or plan different activities when dealing with friends who have more curves.

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James 11-27-2009 @ 2:22PM

SURE I WOULD. BUT IT SHOULD BE STATED AS " YOU KNOW, YOU WILL LIVE LONGER, FEEL BETTER AND LOOK PRETTIER IF YOU LOST THE EXTRA WEIGHT.

Carol 11-30-2009 @ 12:32PM

Hell yeah, I would tell her she's overweight.. i'd tell her to start cooking for herself and "Get in the Kitchen, BIT@H!".. b-tchcooks.com (put an "i" in place of the "-")

littlewing1217 11-27-2009 @ 3:56PM

Trust me, when people are overweight, gain weight, need to lose weight, etc., they know it. They feel it when they go out to eat, when they shop for clothes and when they're hanging out with others who are fit. They don't need anyone (especially not someone who is a friend) telling them they're "fat" and would be more attractive if they lost weight. What overweight people need are people who support and encourage them to make good food choices (through leading by example). I remember in my teens I was typically 20 lbs heavier than most of the girls I grew up with, mostly because I was a bookworm who made bad food choices and shunned sports, dances, etc. because of constant taunting. Once I graduated, I made it my mission to watch what (and how much) I ate and to exercise daily (even if it was only walking an hour a day) and the weight started melting away. I also noticed that the people who taunted me were starting to look at me very differently. Ironically in later years, many of them gained weight and many became bigger than I once was. I will never forget their taunts because they hurt, but I also have to admit that in some ways they motivated me to take action. I no longer struggle with my weight, but the choices that I make now have nothing to do with what others think of me; they have EVERYTHING to do with how I think/feel about myself. Good luck to all those in the weight loss struggle. YOU CAN DO IT!!!

Tom 11-27-2009 @ 4:28PM

I would never tell any woman she was fat-thats what sisters are for.For a man to do that would invite either certain death or trashing a friendship.

Lorraine 11-27-2009 @ 5:15PM

This article tells me a lot about it's writer. I can't believe some of those questions! It wouldn't even occur to me to have those thoughts about any human let alone a friend.

Me 11-27-2009 @ 11:36PM

I have several overweight and/or obese friends. They don't need to be told--they know. What they need is a friend who thinks they're beautiful inside and out, regardless of weight, same as you would want from a friend. I'm always there if they want to work out together, but I don't see how saying anything would do any good for their self-esteem, their weight, or our friendship.

JOANNA 11-27-2009 @ 5:36PM

Like all the boards now, the first five posts are ads.
Ok! Apparently these "message" boards have become advertisment boards, soooooo......I give up.

When will greedy AOL get the message?
We know they are getting a kick back, and their customers are fed up.

bobby 11-27-2009 @ 5:51PM

I like to find chubby women to have affairs with as they try hard to please and to keep me coming around. They say i give great oral sex as foreplay .The wife is slim trim, and great looking so when she sees me around theses chubby women she never suspects i would hit on them when i can have her but i need alot more than she wants to give .

JANIE SNIDER 11-27-2009 @ 7:11PM

As a young lady I was very shapely, small boned and slim and trim. then I had children, that put on 20 lbs, a hysterectomy, that added another 30 lbs and then heart surgery that added another 70 lbs. I am fit, walk about 6 miles a day, and eat good home grown veggies,pork, beef and venison. The best thing about the extra weight is that FAT STRETCHES WRINKLES. The worst thing is that my cute figure is not existent but my happy personality is fine; and at age 68 to be able to see, hear, laugh, dance and ride my horses, is a real blessing.

BigD 11-27-2009 @ 7:20PM

O my let me be the first to say to her ......HEY UR A FAT @SS

BigD 11-27-2009 @ 7:21PM

the only support she needs is a GURRDLE AND A WIRED BRA

Chester Borland 11-27-2009 @ 7:59PM

If they're truly your friend, you wouldn't dare say a word, because if they are your friend, it doesn't make any difference about their appearence anyway. Besides all that, they already know they're overweight in the first place.