Flirting With a Fitness Instructor - Put the Kabosh on Your Crush

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Q. I take a serious interval class on Friday mornings and get along well with the instructor. I have taken the class for over a year and actually exchange e-mails with her on various topics, fitness and otherwise; she's cool, competitive, and likes challenges. I admit, I'd like to ask her to arm wrestle (she's cute and wicked fit), but am somewhat afraid to do so. I'm happily married and so is she, so I don't want to come across as asking something inappropriate. Any advice on how I should handle it? Mark

A. Hi, Mark. Thanks for the question. Look, normally I wouldn't consider it an odd request to ask an instructor you're friendly with for a simple physical challenge. But the fact that you've mentioned she's hot and that you're married leaves me to believe your intentions aren't completely innocent.

I've taught a million group classes over the past few years and have had the great fortune of meeting some of my best friends through instructing. It's quite natural for instructors to become buddies with the folks attending their classes on a regular basis. I wouldn't push it with yours though; she may be able to read into your request and then everyone will feel weird.

As a wife, I also want to take a moment to defend yours. This minor flirtation with your instructor is not OK and would make the woman waiting for you at home feel sad. You should put the kabosh on your growing crush immediately.

Lastly, what good could come of this? If she beats you, you'll look like a dork. If you beat her, you'll still look like a dork. Find a man of equal size to challenge. Maybe your instructor can pair you up with another guy in the class. Take your eye off of "that prize" and put it back on the real one. Buy your wife some roses and get your focus back on your fitness. Now get to work!

Punches & Kicks,

Fitz

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