Our society is funny. Thin celebrities are bashed for being thin, yet stars who gain more than five "extra" pounds are criticized for being overweight. What the hell?

I look around my neighborhood and see lots of happy people of all different shapes and sizes, and I imagine (not in a creepy lewd and lascivious way) that many of those people are having sex! You know ... they "get busy" and "do the deed." So my thought process in the long run is that sexy is really not so much about looking like a Calvin Klein model, but more about the way we act and feel.

So what makes you feel sexy? Lots of girls seem to strut their stuff in lingerie, stilettos or shiny shirts. Guys work the boot cut jeans or Under Armour T's, I suppose. Me? I feel best in my black cowboy boots. Am I a western girl at all? Not really. But those boots make me feel just a tad more powerful and as you'll read next ... I love power.

Which leads to my next question. What turns you on? Do you like humor, brains, curly hair, baggy pants,danger, or someone who'd make a great parent? Me? I seem to get giddy over powerful men. Uniforms are particularly sexy; law enforcement and military float my boat big time. (My Hot Cop + My Cute Baby = Super Sexy to Me!) I also seem to be drawn to the great power of various men in shirts and ties; even if the guy is not so handsome. I just dig confidence.

Sexy is absolutely in the eye or on the foot of the beholder. So when mass media tries to shove some guy or chic down your throat as the perfect version of sexy, shove right back! Just be yourself and hot steamy love will be yours for the taking.

Would love to hear your thoughts in the comment section!