Dilemma: A pal or a loved one is heaving around a bit too much weight. You're worried this person is tipping the scales in a dangerous direction and you want to help. Appropriate? Or not so much? Parade magazine says if done the wrong way, approaching the topic can hurt feelings and lead to resentment. But with some tact, a little nudging isn't such a bad idea. Here's how to do it.

• Well, don't nag, that's for sure. No teasing either, no mater how mild. Encouragement is the key.
  
• Stress that you care about your friend or family member's health. Talk benefits – like a lower risk of disease and higher self-esteem.
• Promise you'll be a partner in fitness. Exercise is more fun with a buddy, but it also increases the chance of success. We're all less likely to quit when someone else is in the game with us.
• Trash the temptation. If you live with your special someone, rid the cupboards of diet derailers -- chips, cookies, cupcakes, soda -- and work together to plan healthy meals.
• Motivate. Offer incentives, like compliments or gifts – how about a pedometer, a personal training session, or an offer to watch your pal's kids while he/she works out?
• Lead the way. Be a good role model by practicing good diet and fitness habits. And when roadblocks get in the way -- and they will -- just get back on track, together.