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Dear Laura:

I have heard something about how when we kiss someone we can tell if they are a good mate for us or not. I've also read your post on how humans are attracted to people who have genes that are not the same or are dissimilar to our own. Are these two somehow related? Since I haven't been the best in choosing girlfriends, I need all the help I can get. Is it possible how someone actually smells and kisses influence who I end up with?

Signed,

Casa Nova, U.S.A.

Dear "Casa",

You are correct. When you kiss someone you are actually taking a "taste test" to determine if someone is compatible with you or not as a mate...with the intent of having little critters of your own! Er, I mean kids. In this post I wrote about how women on the pill may choose the wrong mate due to how it can change their "ideal mate compass", causing it to point in the wrong direction! It turns out, without any synthetic hormones involved, you ideally tune in to a potential partner's chemistry by scent which relays their MHC's or major histocompatibility complex. MHC's are a "key" that relays genetic compatibility which in turn determines the success having healthy offspring. MHC's are not only present as a scent but also in your saliva! Wow! When I read this article I was simply blown away! And then I started to think about the boyfriends I have had since I was a teen, how I felt about kissing them in relation to how the relationship went!! What a concept to contemplate. Here are a few rules to follow on your Kissing Quest for your ideal woman:

• Remember, when a woman is on birth control pills she may not be the best judge of who her ideal mate would be. So proceed with caution (in all ways!). She may be perfect for you genetically...or maybe not!
• When you kiss someone it does give you a chance for an "up close and personal" experience of your potential mate via smell, touch and more.
• And kissing or the "taste test" typically tells both partners if they are right for the other!

And in closing, check out this bit of trivia. We humans are so sensitive to the biochemistry of the opposite sex that men can actually tell when women are ovulating! Men are known to become more protective during a female's "fertile time". But get this, a study was performed observing men who tipped strippers in a club as they danced for them. The results? The dancers who were ovulating made the most money in tips! Those who were menstruating? The least!

Casa, stay on your toes in your lovelife. Hopefully this info will help you find "the best" woman for you! Or maybe just make you think BEFORE you leap off into love once again!

Healthfully Yours,

Laura Lewis, Life Fit Expert, www.thatsfit.com