Taking Off Ten: Socializing
Being on a 9-5 schedule is what I think played the biggest role in my slow weight gain over the years. I'm not the best at planning ahead and bringing my own lunch, so I relied on food court fare, and having office candy at hand much of the time was too much temptation for me. But I've changed the way I think about food over the last few weeks, and it's worked well for me -- so far. I now don't make it the focal point of my day, so it's easier to avoid temptation. But now that I'm spending my days outside the home again, the temptation of being in a social environment is putting a bit of a dent in my healthy eating. Let me explain: Almost every day since I've started my training course, someone has brought in chocolates or donuts to share, and there have also been a few birthdays complete with--you guessed it--cake.
That's not all--when we call it a day on Friday afternoon, there are always a few invites to head to the pub for drinks. And when my best girlfriends made a plan to head for Chinese food last weekend, I felt I couldn't say no because I was craving some time with them. All in all, it's enough to put a bit of a damper on my best efforts to eat healthy. Out of the three total pounds I've lost over the past two weeks, I've gained one back. Not good.
But here's the thing: There will always be friends and co-workers lurking around every corner with a slice of cake or a glass of wine. The problem isn't them--it's me. I need to find a balance, or else find new friends who have the same goals as me. My friends and I are joined by a love of food and drink. It's what we do--we go for drinks and fancy dinners. I'd love to say that we're a group who goes hiking and does yoga when we're together but we're not--we're eaters. And that's not necessarily a bad thing, but it's something I have to be aware of.
So it seems have to set some ground rules for social events. One, I have to limit my drinking to one glass of wine per day. Two, I have to make smart choices at restaurants--nothing deep-fried and I need to go easy on the cheese. Three? I should only be eating out twice a week--max. And four, I have to refuse sugar-laden treats. At least for the time being.
I'm curious--how do you balance a social life and a healthy lifestyle?

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1-27-2008 @ 6:00PM
Kristen said...
This is one of the biggest challenges I face, because when I turn down and invitation for something my friends know I'd LOVE to do (you know, like go stuff my face with guacamole and queso dip and margaritas), they inevitably ask, "Why?" It almost seems to insult people when I say that I'm trying to watch what I eat -- not everyone understands that it's easier to stay home than go somewhere with delicious temptations and refrain, even though that means eschewing their company.
And I don't have an answer, although the thing that's worked well for me is to tell friends my specific weight loss or fitness goals and then tell them the strides I've made. At that point they seem to be a little more understanding because they know I've sacrificed all across the table (pun not intended), and that I'm not just sacrificing them.
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1-27-2008 @ 10:41PM
Dr. J said...
Until there is a paradigm change and we diminish the importance of food, and people start working together to normalize themselves, it will not be solved.
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1-28-2008 @ 10:49AM
Crabby said...
Great post--this is a tough issue. (And I love the picture, what a fun looking group!)
As a person with hermit-like tendencies, I feel like socializing is actually healthy for me, so I cut myself a bit of slack. I don't go hog-wild, but I do eat more crap than I do on my own.
If I had more of a social life, perhaps it would be more of a problem. As it is, I just try to exercise a bit more or eat healthier at other meals.
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1-28-2008 @ 8:28PM
crabbymcslacker said...
Great post--this is a tough issue. (And I love the picture, what a fun looking group!)
As a person with hermit-like tendencies, I feel like socializing is actually healthy for me, so I cut myself a bit of slack. I don't go hog-wild, but I do eat more crap than I do on my own.
If I had more of a social life, perhaps it would be more of a problem. As it is, I just try to exercise a bit more or eat healthier at other meals.
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1-28-2008 @ 10:49PM
Martha Edwards said...
Thanks Crabby, those are my pals :) I'm trying to be more of a hermit but it's hard when you have fun friends like that -- haha