Have you recently been through a serious break up? Are you still mourning the break up? A clue to tell if you have really gone on with your life is to look around the house. Do you still have old pictures of the two of you out and do you still have souvenirs that you collected together on trips. Have you kept an old phone message that occasionally you listen to or is there a piece of clothing still hanging in your closet from your ex that you haven't returned or thrown in the trash? It is a good chance that you are still lingering in the relationship. It's time to clear the clutter in your house and in your mind and take that first step into the freedom of happy thoughts again.

It's time to get back out and start laughing with friends again. Quit feeling guilty or pointing blame and accept what is done and walk away. Get to know yourself again and what you value most in life and what makes you happy. Spend some time pampering yourself because you deserve it. Take time to honestly reflect on the things, habits, morals, judgments of your past relationships and know what does not work with your needs. Recognizing those things will save yourself some future pain and heartache by getting into the same patterns over and over. Standing on your own two feet will make you stronger and you will realize that you don't just have to accept the first person that comes along if they do not have the qualities that you desire. The sooner you can be truly happy with yourself the sooner you will clear the way for the love you really want in your life.